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9月2日

改变从今天开始

 

不一定

 

逃避不一定躲得过

面对不一定最难受

孤独不一定不快乐

得到不一定能长久

失去不一定不再有

转身不一定最软弱

  别急着说无选择

以为世上只有对与错

许多事情的答案都不是只有一个

所以我们永远有路可以走

  你能找到理由难过

也一定能找到理由快乐

 

懂得放下的人找到轻松

懂得放开的人找到自由

懂得关怀的人找到朋友

懂得开怀的人找到快乐

 

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我走在街道上

有个深洞在人行道旁

  我掉进了深洞

我迷失......我彷徨

  这不是我的错

我花了很张的时间才回到地面上

 

 

我走在街道上

有个深洞在人行道旁

我没看见......我假装

  我再次掉进了深洞

我无法相信竟到达同一地方

  但这不是我的错

我仍然花了很张的时间才回到地面上

 

 

我走在街道上

有个深洞在人行道旁

我看见它在那里

我又掉进了洞,这是习惯的力量

我知道我在何方

我张开双眼......是我的错

  我很快就回到了地面上

 

 

我走在街道上

有个深洞在人行道旁

我绕过它走向前方

 

 

我走在另一条街道上

 

 

7月1日

The A vs B mind divide

It was recently reported from the nervous system that my world is at war with itself, but here I am not talking about bombs and guns, rather that my 2 thoughts are armed with their different point of view, poised to fight for their different life style.

 

Skyscraper, coffee bars surrounded, top office building, busy work, rush hour, fashion guys in skinny jeans and neck ties during the week. On Friday evenings, legs and heels are on the show in the night clubs. I don’t exactly follow the trends set by fellows like someone called BOBOS, but I really get used to this kinda life. So what’s the debate? Well, according to the elder’s opinion:” make concessions in order to gain advantages”. That’s why I am here now: typical government building, sophisticated people and the great work. Maybe I could provide a less biased view on the discussion as a girl born and bred in the deep south but attending University in Beijing.(I’d just like to add at this point that I am a Northerner).

My mind B confidently says to me: you are willing to be changed like this, aren’t you?  You were too busy to have free life before and you want to try different way, don't you? The answer is absolutely right, but the things let me feel a little annoyed is that each time when I calm down my mood and try to be involved in working out a plan, my former colleagues jump on line and say:”hi, mate, where are you? Are you all right? we like the rock songs in the laptop you left!” Instead I listen to the national song and Chinese People’s Liberation Army marching song every morning in office that is because one of my leaders here likes them very much. I am a Patriotism and communist as well, but I don’t know why every single morning when I get down my car with hot music walking into my office which is full of patriotic songs , suddenly I feel I am back to liberation-war period. Honestly, sometimes I am in embarrassment situation, so is she! Last week, I’ve got a text from her urgently said :”I am awarded to be an excellent member of the communist party by King&Wood and the commending conference will be held on Friday afternoon and I need submit a report within 1000 words , how to write it ? Hurry up!”. It is a great honor, no doubt, but the fanny point is that I can hardly imagine a cool girl with uk style and eye-liner even get on the Medals podium for excellent communist…wow..!! Here it is worth mentioning that

today is Party's Day: Happy birthday to our Party!

Ps:tmr.

5月20日

多难兴邦

 

昨晚收到健泼哥哥的短信说今天一早出发参加成都某基地的数据恢复工作。他年轻的心真诚又激情澎湃,总是能够感染我,比起他当祖国遇难时放弃远在德国的妻儿飞到灾区尽自己的一份力量,我们捐助的那点资金真的不足以挂齿。在灾难面前人的生命如此脆弱。这让我深深的感受到我们能健康的活着应该学会感恩。这几天通过媒体看到那么多悲惨的场面,忽然觉得我们平时追求的,计较的都不重要。20085191428分北京默哀时场面很感人。整个北京城那刻鸣声顿起,仿佛像一只巨大的雄狮因为失去亲人发出撕心裂肺的吼叫,我们都落泪了。。。。

大灾大难虽然给我们带来残酷和巨痛,但是也给我们带来坚韧和智慧!特别是对我们不谙世事的年轻人,能把我们从身在福中不知福中警悟!善恶一念间,福祸一瞬间,好坏能转换,这些道理既平易又深奥。让我们所有的人都学会知恩、感恩,懂得珍惜与同情吧。

 

 

                                                  
 
4月18日

1997

记得,第一次去香港是一九九六年,香港回归前一年。一个形状为一九九七的别致发卡卡住我长长的头发,那时的我聪明,安静,有灵性。整个夏令营中我有别于其他孩子打闹,玩耍,惊奇的看着高楼大厦。我很用心的搜集资料,留意每一点内地与香港的不同,认真地记录下来每一天的感触,以至于回来后我的那篇游记成为了全班同学传看的范文。也是那一次,我让崇敬已久的语文老师记住了班级里那个不太爱讲话,总是用一个形状成1997漂亮发卡卡住马尾辫的小女生。那年我十三岁。

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之后,也去过香港很多次,但每次都是短暂的停留。似乎再也不可能有那种心境和时间让自己的心停住用童真去感受它了------这个充满魅力的小岛。

 

 

世界的步伐很快,就像The world is flat 中形容的那样:“在非洲,瞪羚每天早上醒来时,她知道自己必须跑得比最快的狮子还快,否则就会被吃掉。狮子每天早上醒来时,它知道自己必须超过跑的最慢的瞪羚,否则就会被饿死。不管你是狮子还是瞪羚,当太阳升起时,你最好开始奔跑”。事实上,我们每天确实是这样拼命奔跑着,因为我们害怕会被吃掉,仰或者怕被饿死-------

          

 

翻阅着港龙提供的杂志,看着周围纷纷打开手提电脑的商务人士们,我觉得自己再也回不到十三岁那年了,那般的纯真无邪充满灵性。

 

转身看她,毫无意外,她正不停的敲打着键盘,旁边放着需要审阅的文件。我回过头,闭上眼睛,那刻的心酸难以用言语来表达,我不知道在这个关键时刻让她和我一起来出差工作是否太自私了。我和她认识有三,四年,在英国时虽然经常在伯大的某个角落或者聚会上碰面,但决不足以交心到一起谈梦想,看人生。“中国会是我的发展基地,但我的目标是Global Investment, 我想拥有的不是一个行业,实业,而是金融,投资和基金。我知道其实实业会比操作国际金融赚钱,但不知为何我偏向后者。亲爱的,你呢?你的目标是什么?远景?”。 看着她传递过来的纸条,我想到爸爸对我们说的话:“混人混事都要有个好心态:得之坦然,失之淡然,争之必然,顺之自然。如此,才能不以物喜,不以已悲,宠辱不惊。方可达到厚德载物,守正出奇的至高境地。”父辈们的那些大智慧,我们似乎真的要用一生去学习,去领悟。

                                       

 

一直以来我很讨厌选择,但是我们的生活却处处让我们选择。“懂得珍惜,学会放弃。。。”。如果说争取需要勇气,那么放弃需要更大更坚定的勇气。人生就是一场旅行,在旅途中,倘若我们背载的东西太多太多,纵使我们有一副钢筋铁骨,也会被压倒在地。如果我们可以学会放弃,我想我们每天都可以像二零零八年四月十二号零晨那样歇斯底里从内心深处开怀大笑。爱与恨一向是有原由,我深信。他转身走向人群…….那瞬间我一切都明白了,无需你更多的解释,更多的借口,因为我看到了我们身上没有的东西。学会放弃吧,像他那样。什么时候学会放弃,什么时候便学会了成熟。

 
4月5日

happy holidays

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  For you and I together.There will never be anything we can not do .

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                          Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to

                                  doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

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                           Love is a master key which opens the gate of happiness.

                                         Let's smile...

                                     

   

3月31日

The Apple tree

A long time ago, there was a huge apple tree. A little boy loved to come and lay around it everyday. He climbed to the tree top, ate the apples, took a nap under the shadow... He loved the tree and the tree loved to play with him. Time went by... the little boy had grown up and he no longer played around the tree everyday. One day, the boy came back to the tree and he looked sad. "Come and play with me," the tree asked the boy. "I am no longer a kid, I don't play around trees anymore." The boy replied,"I want toys. I need money to buy them." "Sorry, but I don't have money...but you can pick all my apples and sell them. So, you will have money." The boy was so excited. He grabbed all the apples on the tree and left happily. The boy never came back after he picked the apples. The tree was sad.

  One day, the boy returned and the tree was so excited. "Come and play with me" the tree said. "I don't have time to play. I have to work for my family. We need a house for shelter. Can you help me?" "Sorry, but I don't have a house. But you can chop off my branches to build your house." So the boy cut all the branches off the tree and left happily. The tree was glad to see him happy but the boy never came back since then. The tree was again lonely and sad. 

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One hot summer day, the boy returned and the tree was delighted. "Come and play with me!" the tree said. "I am sad and getting old. I want to go sailing to relax myself. Can you give me a boat?" "Use my trunk to build your boat. You can sail far away and be happy." So the boy cut the tree trunk to make a boat. He went sailing and never showed up for a long time. Finally, the boy returned after he left for so many years. "Sorry, my boy But I don't have anything for you anymore. No more apples for you..." the tree said."I don't have teeth to bite" the boy replied. "No more trunk for you to climb on" "I am too old for that now" the boy said. "I really can't give you anything ... the only thing left is my dying roots" the tree said with tears. "I don't need much now, just a place to rest. I am tired after all these years." The boy replied. "Good! Old tree roots is the best place to lean on and rest. Come, Come sit down with me and rest." The boy sat down and the tree was glad and smiled with tears.......

  This is a story of everyone. The tree is our parent. When we were young, we loved to play with Mom and Dad... When we grown up, we left them, and only came to them when we need something or when we are in trouble. No matter what, parents will always be there and give everything they could to make you happy. You may think that the boy is cruel to the tree but that's how all of us are treating our parents.               

2月29日

我的天空------

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            life is like an elevator or a lift as we call it in England.
            Are you going up or going down ? Are you stopping at this floor, or are you going ever higher ?
            We choose.
1月11日

Little Prince

After reading Sister Mary’s Blog and viewing her album, I tried to control my emotions in my office, but tears filled in my eyes. The tear is nothing but happiness, for my dear sister. Our little Prince finally came to the world ….his everything is so little, so cute…! I don’t know whether sister dresses him in that bright green suit or not? I remember quite clearly that bright green suit with a pair of little tight black shoes I specially bought for him in Finland last Christmas when he still prevented from being seen. I don’t know why I had such of strong feeling that our baby should be a boy since sister was pregnant, although the result informed from hospital was a girl after sister did B-ultrasound, I still believe in my own feeling and bought little boy’s clothes instead of girl’s! It was proved that my sixth sense was absolutely right.

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By seeing Ben’s photo, I terribly miss Kitty, Andy, Alex….all my good buddies in GREEN ROOM –

Koko and I have promised to be back to Birmingham  2008…..no matter how busy we are……be back …together…..to … ! And last night, I met her up at SPA center after her a bit long business trip, she narrated the stories to me with happy mood and funny tone, which is about what happened around her these weeks, I really enjoy the atmosphere we have always, we are laughing out loudly, we are making fun of each other, I am counting how many Mr. right has she got and she is shouting me...to be babe in totally control herself …..we are family and happy forever…….!

The Second Madrigal

 

  A night of love
exquisite as a
concert from old Venice
played on exquisite instruments.
Healthy as a
buttock of a little angel.
Wise as an
anthill.
Garish as air
blown into a trumpet.
Abundant as the reign
of a royal Negro couple
seated on two thrones
cast in gold.

A night of love with you,
a big baroque battle
and two victories.

  Anna Swirszynska  

 
12月19日

seek for what?

                                                                                          

I’ve been asking myself so many times over each night since last month. What am I seeking for? What kind of life style do I really want? The loads of documents given by my boss everyday, The calls from Ringo asking when he can see me again, The complains come from our Clients , The blaming texts received almost every two days not only from my brother but my relatives as well and the tough projects cooperated with koko has been making me bleeding exhausted. Sometimes, when I get home in midnight with worn-out body, I really want a day off and couldn’t understand why I still persist in doing those of hard works? Mama always tells me: The only thing you need to do is that taking good care of yourself, getting fat a bit, but why can’t I follow up what Mama said. Can’t help thinking over and over the things that I’ve been doing. I always force myself to do everything better than before and the more I learn, the more I realize how little I know. The most tired moment during a day, I get used to listen to 1973 by James Blunt recommended by koko. It can cheer me up, when I am sad and calm me down when I am angry, also it recalls me a lot the most beautiful memory I had in the U.K. The time crossed very quickly, in a moment already nearly one year since I was back from U.K.

From my working career this year, actually, I have understood there are many restrictions in our life, which you can not leap it forward and you have to be restricted as long as you are in the world, therefore, I’ve learned how to use another way thinking of work and life. But I’ve never thought about making any schemes and intrigues to get things done in anytime. I believe that everything is base on virtue, which means only those of people who have it can get the final success rather than those of people who do care the benefits in front. I don’t know from when I begin to hate someone who told me that you should pretend yourself well and be professional in any aspect of life. Why? Why I have to pretend and why can’t I show myself to people by nature? Might be I am too naive to think so, but I am so scared to imagine what the world like if everyone pretends themselves in deep. Perhaps, I really should learn more Philosophy and History as my father said before, the first one could help me know how to treat issues from the point of dialectics and the second one could let me absorb experience and lesson. No doubt, I’ve got a busy social life because of business work in most of time, every time I have to social with diffident type of guys! Now it has become my burden and quite easy gets bored definitely, due to “their seven sins”---Pride, Envy, Wrath, Sloth, Greed, Gluttony and Lust. I didn’t mean that I wanna hurt someone but to know your self is true progress…anyway...

 

Koko has gone to business trip and left me alone, who would accompany me apart from her? Christmas is just around the corner. I wish I would travel to Finland where Santa Claus lives in…Am I that lucky?! I guess so :-)

11月28日

BVLGARI

透过BVLGARI的香水瓶我看到一个模糊的笑容,我抬起头,她的确在跟我微笑,在这样一个满是金发碧眼的机场里, 这个没有经任何挑染过--黑发,黑眼睛女孩的笑容让我感到如此亲切和友爱,那一瞬间我孤独等待转机的心突然被暖了一下! ARE YOU A CHRISTIAN?(你是基督教徒吗)? 她柔柔地问我。“厄….?~我不是!”。我底下头看着自己胸口上方闪闪的十字架说。这是我以前男友送我的礼物我说。 她愣楞地看着这条项链, 许久才回过神来指着BVLGARI: 这款香水不错,很适合高雅的女人用。我瞥了一眼随身的拉杆箱调皮地说:“就差一瓶香水了,一小箱给国内朋友的礼物! “做你的朋友一定很幸福”她有点羡慕, 有点失落, 又有点~~我看着她表情变化, 很迷茫~~~!!如果说在英国的日子里有时会感到孤独,寂寞和煎熬的话,那么每次回国转机等待的那段时间会夸张,无情的把它们放大十倍,你会感到灵魂在上空漂浮着,不知道从哪里来,也不知道往哪里去?机场来来往往的行人和你毫无关系!!

 

我俩懒懒的坐在候机厅,我能感觉到她也因遇到我而感到不孤单, 女孩子聊天好像从来都不会以政治或体育类似话题为开始。“我在想送你这条项链的人是什么样的?”。她淡淡地说她的这句话仿佛还留有余音, 我的情绪如洪水决堤般涌向脑海:一地给她讲述着故事~~眼圈一次次地变得通红!!她没有任何反映,作答,甚至连看我一眼都没有,眼神直视着外面不停起飞--降落的一架架飞机!!这让我显的很尴尬,我借用谭艾琳的那句话,无奈地自己对自己说: 一个女人一辈子愤怒的是爱情,漫骂的是爱情,得意的是爱情,沮丧的还是爱情,一辈子就忙活爱情吗?“D-E-R-A-I-L-E-D”。这是她长达半小时后开口说的第一句话。“what’s that? What are you talking about?”我下意识的问,并迅速地在脑子里搜寻关于DERAILED这个发音的所有信息!!“出轨??….你是在说AMC刚刚下映的那部电影吗?”我不太确定地说。“2006年的复活节假期我一个人去西班牙旅行,面对我和男朋友平淡、无奇的爱情和英国沉闷压抑的生活,我想激情或许就在生活的某个拐角处,旅行是寻找它最好的方式!我们相遇在巴塞罗那那充满奇幻色彩的圣家堂教堂,他英俊,有型,深邃的眼牟里充满了无限的热情~!他的出现让我对生活有了新的领悟!接下来的四天里我真的像是来到情人家乡作客那样,尽情享受着阳光,沙滩,海鲜,美酒~~!!!我疯狂地爱上了巴塞罗那,就像疯狂地爱上了他!!回程的机票在我的手中,其实都可以更改的,只要他开口留我!!那晚他深情地望着我,放到我手中一个精致的小盒子,他说这是他送给我的一个礼物,要求我等到回程中再打开它!!我醉了………那刻….!! ”。 h-o-w sweet……!”我情不自禁地说了这么一句英文!!“那是什么??一定不会像我男朋友那样俗气送我首饰什么的”我一边问,一边心想我怎么就遇不到这么nice的事情呢!! 她缓缓的转过脸看着我平静地说:“里面什么都没有,只有四个字-----我有艾滋病!! 我被她的这句话吓着了,我用手不停的扯着脖子里戴的那条项链,仿佛它变得越来越紧,勒着我的喉咙!!“你知道英国很人性化,他们并不歧视艾滋病患者,我的私人医生还会定期给我。。。。。。。”。接下来她说的什么我似乎听不太清楚了,只觉得突然她在我的视线里变的异常的模糊,像是我们中间隔一层玻璃,玻璃面上有些灰尘和沙砾,我很想努力地擦干净那层东西,以便再次能清楚的看到她.之后的一段时间里我一直期望她忽然能露出诡异的笑容跟我说:“在号称性都的阿姆斯特丹给你开这样一个玩笑,你不会介意吧?”。

 

可是一直等到再次登机她都没有再跟我讲过一句话。几乎所有的乘客都戴上眼罩渐渐地睡去了,机仓里的灯也都关闭了!而我却没有一丝一毫的睡意,我揉了揉被熬的疲惫的双眼继续盯着一遍遍放映的<魔术师>:看着影片里十九,二十世纪之交的维也纳和那封建社会气息笼罩的一切......我的心情跌到了谷底~~!!我闭上双眼内心焦虑的想着:我们总是自以为是高呼着我们控制了生活,掌握了命运,却没有料到,生活站在更高的苍穹之上露出它讥笑嘲讽的面容.

 

我用尽全身的力气顶着混混沉沉的脑袋去提取行李,再次看到了她,我说:"你怎么走?我哥哥来接我,要不要..??""我家人来接我"她安静的说.她是那么地平静,那么地平静!!!"丫头,从地球那边滚回来了"哥哥一边接过我的行李,一边BULABULA地给我说着接下来一天的行程和安排.而我在不停的回头,在众多接机人群中寻找她和她家人的身影....................那天北京的阳光是那么的刺眼。

                         

 

8月24日

帝国的荣耀

 

 听说罗孚被我们南汽和上汽给收购了,这个消息不免让我有点兴奋!曾经我与MG有缘无份,在没有遇到CORSA之前,差一点在诺丁汉买了MG小跑系列,最终以排量太高而放弃,对我始终是一种遗憾……因为她的外形和性能甚爱之!

 

查了一些资料才知道:原来Land Rover(路虎)Rover(罗孚)同属英国MG-ROVER罗孚集团,1994年因经营不善,罗孚集团被宝马接管。20003月宝马将罗孚一分为三,把罗孚的越野车部分(即路虎Land Rover)以27亿美元卖给了福特,把迷你(MINI)品牌自己留下,而罗孚(MG-ROVER)留给了英国政府,并最终被中国的南汽和上汽收购。MG-ROVER对英国乃至世界汽车工业的发展都是有着巨大贡献的,百年来ROVER这个品牌一直都处于英国汽车工业的中心位置,与捷豹(JAGUAR)迷你(MINI)等品牌有着难以分割的历史渊源。带有ROVER名称的汽车产品,代表着纯粹的英国货---值得信赖、富有创新、永恒而经典!她于捷豹设计风格有许多相似之处。但相比之下,捷豹多了一些霸气,罗孚则更加温和、谦卑。她曾经辉煌和荣耀过,可是后来落没了,以至于当时我们在英国时见到很多二手车场里停放着很多second hand Rover 落满了灰尘,价位很底可无人问津。经过多次转手,现在由我们中国人接手她,希望我们能有突破性的创新并延续她以往的辉煌。

有时会跟几个喜欢车的朋友在一起谈论自己喜欢的车系,一个绝对是日系车拥护者的朋友老是抨击英国车--固执守旧,华而不实!我俩常常争执到脸红脖粗为止!我特别欣赏英国人一贯坚持纯粹造车的理念,他们对个性化的坚持,从未妥协过!这使英国车除受传统君王色彩的影响外散发出独特的英伦气息品牌魅力!!记得去年去日本看日系车展的时候,导游问谁知道世界汽车之王是谁?答什么的都有。当然毫无疑问我得了一份小礼物!在豪华车领域里,宝马、奔驰、奥迪根本无法取代英国的劳斯莱斯、宾利的王者地位。20世纪前半叶英国曾是全球汽车工业的领导者,英国车凭借深厚的文化底蕴,以及贵族般的优秀气质,已成为成功、身份和地位的重要标志,这也是中国富有且品位独特的成功人士钟爱英国车的主要原因。虽然劳斯莱斯、罗孚、阿斯顿.马丁、MINI、美洲豹等都被或曾经被国外汽车大厂收购,但这并不能抹杀它们身上的个性化。的确,英国人善于制造高贵典雅、华而不俗,就像英伦风格的时尚那样摄人魂魄。

其实,英国还有一个以生产怀旧复古跑车而闻名的车厂---摩根。这也是那次去伯明翰看车展才知道的。摩根车都坚持采用木制材料制作车架,全然不理现代化高科技发动机安装到这样一个古色古香的跑车上会有什么价值!车子的设计风格是车子的魅力所在,离开了创新思维和个性化的追求,车子就变得毫无生气。

英国还是一个世界汽车运动的发源地,因此许多英国车都带有赛车血统。虽然如今在世界汽车业并不占据主要地位,其汽车产量远在美、日、德、法、意等国之后,但是英国跑车却名牌辈出,各领风骚。美洲豹、莲花、阿斯顿.马丁、摩根、路虎、MG、特威尔等跑车都为车迷耳熟能详,使英国成为出意大利之外世界上最重要的跑车产国。在这个岛国里,有很多实力雄厚的专业跑车厂,他们的作品常常会给车坛带来强烈的冲击。这些车厂充满创造和想像力,喜欢把事情做到极限,他们对跑车本身的兴趣远高于对销量和利润的追求。

提到英国跑车,首先想到的是阿斯顿.马丁。虽然它的动力绝非世界一流,车身也略显笨重,但它在英国电影《007》中作为MR.BOND的坐骑,被打上深深民族烙印,代表英国传统品位和绅士风度,因此,它是英国传统超级跑车的典型代表。阿斯顿.马丁D-B 7被意大利艺术家誉为世界上“最美丽的汽车”!英国还有一个只生产小型跑车的公司莲花(LOTUS),它用一台再普通不过的1.8升发动机,便造出了一部真正的跑车,这种匪夷所思的事情也只有英国人敢想、敢做了吧。那时经常在HOMEBASE看到莲花小跑车乖乖巧巧的趴在停车场看着来往购物的人们!!

 

不得不承认英国人这种纯粹的造车理念很大程度地制约了英国汽车工业的发展,再加上英国政府不利的政策影响,导致英国汽车品牌大多流亡他乡。不过,这个个性化十足的国度在汽车工业个性化的那份坚持,值得人们为之喝彩。

8月2日

my vauxhall corsa

Vauxhall corsa

 

昨夜梦到了我的corsa, 不知道新主人对她好不好? 是否经常给她洗澡..是否漂泼大雨能把她停到车库, 是否暴日能给她披上阳光挡..是否也能不让可恶的小虫子靠近她..好像自从回国以后我就再也没有想起过她,只有走时淡淡地对姐姐说了一句帮我把她卖了吧…….直到昨晚梦到了她,于是曾经她和我在一起的日子像电影片断一样在我脑海里一一地放映着..那时无论上学放学英国的天气有多恶劣,她都帮我挡着,无论我想去多远的地方她都不会说累, 无论在26号跟小姐妹们聊天多晚,她都会静静地在门外等着我.然后安全地保护我回家,无论去sainsbury或者tesco买什么东西,她都不让我铃,无论外面有多冷或多热朋友说让我去接一下,她都不会说NO..我真的好象都没有仔细想过,在英国的日子里除了好朋友们陪我分快乐渡难关外,就是她了,她默默地陪我一起承受了太多太多的东西了…….而我临走时就那样轻描淡写地说:把她给卖了吧”……!!我真是个狠心的女人……给她留下了太多的伤害.记得刚把她买来的第二天我就把她的右眼旁边撞了一个大疤.我还清晰地记得去导师steve家小庄园的时候,他指着她的那块疤问我:这是谁干的? 还记得英国罕见出现暴雨的那天,我关了发动机,开着车灯,打着雨刮,讲了一个小时的电话,等到我买完东西回来时,怎么都打不开发动机了,最后我被好心的英国人take a lift走了,把她孤单的留到了sainsbury的停车场了,在那样一个雨大的连眼睛都睁不开的夜里!更记得有次出大学刷出门卡时,车窗摇下那刻突然连同也下来了一只可怕的蜘蛛,我立刻魂飞魄散,直接从车门另侧跳了下来,差点因为没有推停车挡也没有拉手刹,而再次让她受撞..!如果今后有机会我想回英国,不为别的,只为看看她……….

回国以后我从不适应没有车的日子到适应,到现在已经习惯了………自从回来以后哥哥就一直说要给我买车,到不是因为他不想让我受挤地铁的苦或者打车的麻烦,而是他说不安全,无论什么我都拒绝了,因为我明白他赚钱也很辛苦!有时得到的越多,受折磨的越多无论心灵上的还是其他方面!!尽管我明白很多道理,可是每次在北京大道上当我看见欧宝的那款Astra驶过时,我都禁不住多看几眼,真的很喜欢那款车,或许因为它是中国版corsa的缘故吧,我对它有种特殊的情怀!!koko说:宝贝,我买车吧,这样我们想去哪儿时就方便很多,我们俩的车!!我很感动,无论怎么样还有人想着我,最近老是感觉再也没有人爱我了,爸爸妈妈不在身边,哥哥因为出差已经走了三个月了…….时常会感觉很孤独……虽然明白其实人本来就是孤独的产物可是还是忍不住自己难过!!koko说以前她和mayQ不开心时常常半夜从伯明翰开到利玆,放着音乐,打开车窗..行驶在A38的高速公路上..那种感觉真的很放松很放松.第二天到leeds喝杯咖啡……(她描述时我走了神想那时的我,也是喜欢在不开心时一个人开车just enjoy在路上的感觉,但我没有开过那么远),所以当KOKO说买了车我们需要散心时,夜间从北京出发开到上海时,吓着我了,我说这也太远了吧!!不然开青岛,去看看海她不耐烦地说着觉得我好象大惊小怪了,还用不刁的表情看这着我.我就喜欢她那种不刁一切的样子!!最近没有事情的时候我老去财富中心陪她一起工作,加班如果不是我亲眼看到,我无法想象她每天的工作量,更无法理解她所谓的劳累和所承受的精神压力!前几天一次聚会中,有位长辈说起80后我们这代孩子充满了失望和气愤---(自私,享受,西化,盲从)所有的恶毒的字眼都让他用尽,而且他一点都没有避讳我的存在!我微笑地听着他偏激的批判,阵阵地感到恐惧,恐惧这种思想的断裂或断层!!我们身上是有很多问题,可是我们心灵里有诗,记忆里有历史,处理问题时有哲学!只是我们还在摸索,还在思考,因为我们还年轻,还没有做到最好!就像KOKO就很棒,我知道你有梦想,有追求亲爱地,可是你负荷太重了!!希望你能在健康中前进,轻松中争优!It takes time, babe!!请别再让我看到你博客里血淋淋地,让我心抽搐地心疼你的话语!!因为我告诉过你我的第六感!!!

7月26日

Q&A

Answer

点名人---koko..

游戏规则:这是博客里流行的击鼓传花游戏,传给谁谁就得接着,否则就得挨罚。请认真对待,不要怕暴露隐私。

1、被点到名字的要在自己的博客上写下自己的答案,并且要再加一个题目,并将加好的题目连同原来的一起传到其他八个人,还要到这八个人的博客上留言通知对方--你被点名了!被点名者不得拒绝回答问题。完成游戏的人将会永远得到大家的祝福。

2、这八个人要在博客上注明是在哪接到的题,并且再想几个题目传给其他八个人,让游戏继续下去,不得回传,被点名的人将得到大的祝福,并且所有美丽愿望都会在不久得以后实现……

问题们:

12007年最想要做的事情是什么?

尽快把我的这些需要办的事情处理完,然后安心,踏实地工作!!

2、觉得人生最重要的是什么 ?

珍惜眼前,才有机会奋斗未来!

3、如果可以从机器猫那里得到一样宝贝,你想得到什么?

机器猫!

4、当你突然有一天被老天一脚踢到古代或者未来,你第一件事是做什么?

拿着我的DV拍下那里的景象.

5、想象一下10年以后想起10年前的自己的心情会是怎么样的?

呵呵..那时的自己真好玩调皮..

6、你为什么要写Blog

不觉得现在没什么好玩的东西了吗,这个还算新鲜..

7、最喜欢自己性格中的哪点?

,,并存.

8、请形容一下你理想中的结婚场景。

目前先想象有男朋友的场景吧哈哈!至于结婚…”游艇上可能是以前天天小马哥说给我买sunseeker,一堆一堆的游艇magazines往我们house里抱,那时的我忧郁的一塌糊涂,带我去bham车展,london游艇专卖我真的都不知道看的是什么,心在哪儿!!想跟他说sorry!其实在这里也想跟姐姐说,他人真的很好,对我太好了,可是我还是无法接受他,因为我真的无法忍受一个70年代出生的孩子还能这么没有思想和追求(小马哥看了一定又气晕了),我们根本无法沟通,最近这少爷又包了一个网球场,专练网球,在我们大家都拼命工作,加班,挣钱的时候!!

9、如果中五百万你怎么消费?

爸爸妈妈200,哥哥100,希望小学100,自己100万投资!

10、在做这套题的时候,你脑海中第一个想到的人,或者想得最多的人是谁?

王晓磊!..因为下个我想点他!:-)

11、如果你坐在一个面朝大海的窗前,有一个写字台,上边有一张信纸,一支笔,你想写给谁,写些什么,用一句话概括哈

Max: life is too short to regret things people tell me…

12、最近在看的电视?

偶尔看看CCTV9 NEWS,其他电视很少看!

13、最近在做的事?

特别杂乱学位认证等等

14、最近在听的音乐?

Crazy,  from Paris to berlin,  who knew, in the morning, ect.

15、最近在吃的东西?

方便面!别骂我,我家一出门不是国品燕窝就是精品鱼翅!我哥给我安置到这样一个鬼位置存心是逼我学习做饭,可是除非他把方便面的供应商给灭了?

16  最近在看的报刊?

….没有什么特别的,就是什么都市精品什么的

17、最近常去的地方?

北京吗?留学服务中心,财富中心,咖啡馆.lol

18、最近常想的异性?

想你比较多点哈哈

19、最近最想做的事?

把我们的项目进行到执行阶段..

20、最近身体状?

,经常性失眠.

21、对得起自己吗?

这有上下问题承接吗?哪个方面呐?

22、你最爱的人是谁?

我的家人们.

23、在生活中能做到心口如一吗?

不能

24、你喜欢做国王还是渔夫?(也就是权者和隐士之间的选择吧。)

国王装成的渔夫

25、你最喜欢什么样的风景

大海,高山,或者像奥地利那种欧洲风情

26、过去的生命中,你有过真正快乐的时刻吗?如果有的话,你还记得是哪一个时刻吗?

,在大学的那段时光.

27、你知道“2006年中国骄傲”都有谁当选举吗?

...NO

28. 你知道你是什么星座吗?

什么意思呀虽然最近因为吃安定记忆力有所下降,但是还是记得自己是处女座!

29、如果可以你还会选择现在的生活吗?

我真的不知道..

30、如果你是男人,你将会怎样去欣赏一个女人?或者你本身就是男人,你现在是怎样欣赏一个女人的?

高贵的女人!并非指的是出身豪门或者本身所处地位如何显赫!我指心态上的高贵!欣赏这种女人往往会给男人生活的信心和勇气,因为她们生命里潜存一种净化男人心灵,激励男人斗志的人性魅力!

31、你认为你活的简单还是复杂?

简单中拥有复杂,复杂中透出简单!

32、你觉得每天都有所得吗?

看哪个方面了,至少我觉得没有虚度!

33、如果你是非宗教信仰者,有没有一本书,当你心理无助的时候就会想读,汲取前行的力量,亦即是否有一本书是你自己的《圣经》?如果你是宗教信仰者,在何种情况下,你会感受到“神”的伟大亦即对你的眷顾与关爱?

我不是宗教信仰者! <>!中英文读过N过遍scarlett一直是我的偶像!

34、当你一路红灯,遭遇逆境时,当你生活中事事不如意时,你会有怎样的心态?

我会有气馁,崩溃的心态,但那时时常会有一种不服输的信念牵引着我!

35、你还在为你刚刚失去的网恋而悲伤,你相信网恋吗?

我不信!也从来不想试! 无聊

36、请问你会和爱你,而你不爱的人结婚么?为什么?

又是结婚?!不管爱或不爱,我有相对比较严重的洁僻,我还不知道我的生活中能不能容下另一个人!这个是首要解决的问题!

37、一个女人,哪颗是你真的心!

谁提的高级问题,智商有限!不懂

38、常言,强扭的瓜不甜,你会接受父母给你安排的婚姻吗?

我父母不会这么残忍!所以.

39、如果,你爱的人突然有一天消失了,那么你会怎么办???

要看原因了,如果是想逃避我,那就放开他!如果是意外或是什么,那接下来我的生命就是为了找到他..

40、如果用一种颜色代表幸福,你会选哪种颜色,为什么?

绝对紫色!!因为神秘!我喜欢一切神秘的东西..

41、最怀念自己过去生命中的哪个阶段?原因?

在大学那个阶段!虽然在军校很苦,但是踏实,单纯,充实,也锻炼了我的意志!

42、如果现在你可以要宝宝了,你想生几个呢?

两个,一个女孩,一个男孩!!

43、你今天有没有做什么让自己高兴或者小有成就感的事情?如果有,请大致说说看

有,在看一本推理小说.精彩!

44、近一个月最想达到的目标?

尽快把项目settle down

45、旧的不去,新的不来,还是新的不来,旧的不去?

旧的不去,新的不来!

46、印象中最深的或者最喜欢春节放的花炮是什么?

我不喜欢焰火,因为美丽太短暂!如果非要说印象,一次在德国汉堡旅行时,刚好赶上新年,广场放烟花,拥挤但温暖的烟火!还有在英国伯明翰x-mas,凄凉而美丽的烟火!!

47、你觉得人和人之间应该怎样相处?

以诚相待!

48、喜欢音乐么?喜欢什么音乐? 在你生命里音乐能占据多少?

Jazz, Pop, R&B, Rock, 音乐在我生命里占据很重要位置,它能使我的心境平静,尤其是那首hero by enrique iglesias.

50、你最大的弱点是什么?

心太软!还有太过于追求完美了!

51、如果人们都可以感恩地生活,你也可以感恩地生活,你认为什么人,什么事,或者什么更抽象的东西是你愿意真心去感谢的?

我感恩所有爱我的人,和伤害过我的人!!爱我的人永远都是我坚强的背石,他她们是帮助过我,我不用说谢谢的人;是我难过悲伤时随时可以依靠,不求我回报的人;是我开心幸福时和我一起分享那份喜悦,而没有任何嫉妒的人!是我撒娇,任性时,可以包容我的人!!是无论他们她们身份如何变化,我都不用改变对他她们称呼的人!!

伤害过我的人其实是雕刻我的人,因为他她们的伤害让我变的更勇敢,更成熟,更坚强,更独立,更豁达!!

52、你希望人生的理想状态是什么样的?请详细形容

低调处世,友善待人,是人生的高境界,我希望我能学会。

53、他们都是怎么成的?(我的意思是,怎么有的男女朋友?这是我好奇了至少10年的问题)请详细说明你自己本人或者你认为很离奇的成了的故事。

这个问题有点低级!我升华一下吧哈哈!Quote莎翁一句journeys end in lovers meeting

55、你沉迷过么?如何摆脱?

还真没有特别沉迷的,我控制力比较好! (shopping除外)

56、有没有感觉过满心疲惫?

!

58、你现在最想跟我说的话是啥?

亲爱地宝贝儿,也只有你点我,我才答了不希望别人了解我一定..哈哈

59、妖精的问题:谁能告诉我如何对付职场中总是欺负你的人?

有智慧的退一步..或者有勇气的进一步.

60、狼问:海带拳那东西怎么玩的啊?

。。。。。不懂

61、阿紫问:有啥好电影推荐么?

魔术师(illusionist).. Edward Norton诠释的太棒了..墨西哥电影讲述十九,二十世纪神秘的维也纳.

赛末点(match point) 讲述一个普通爱尔兰小伙儿到了伦顿如何进入中产阶级,如何利用女人又如何欺骗,背叛和抛弃的,其实挺恶俗的,但是影片的英音和熟悉的建筑着实让我enjoy了一下

65.我的问题:快快乐乐活十年和平淡抑郁活一百年你会选择哪种,为什么?

前者! 还问为什么?选后者还不如直接死了

66. 不白给的问题:回答了这么多,你还想接着再这么答一次不?

!我答的快抓狂了.

67.上上签KEVIN的问题:过两年我结婚的时候你们会包多大的红包?

不认识

68.你理想的结婚年龄是多大(无论你已经结婚与否)?

说过了先有了对象再告诉你!

69.emily:你曾经想过尝试着改变自己生活的轨迹,个性,脾气,以及对女人的偏见吗?

 

点人:慈祥的哥哥J

 

7月23日

.......

最近老是会想起这个故事……心又开始疼了….

One day a chinese girl went to Uk, she met a handsome bloke he was a doctor, they fell in love..until one day she came home and told him that she was pregnant . Oh dear he thought I am not ready for children yet, he told her to abort it. She wouldn’t do this and returned to China, where she had a beautiful baby gril whose name is Alice. When Alice was 12 years old , she said to her mum who is my father. The chinese girl said he was a very handsome doctor who lives in Uk. Alice thought I must find him so off she went. She knew where the doctor used to live and after a long hard search ,she eventually found him…old and grey but still handsome.Then she arranged for her mother and father to meet without telling either, so they met and fell in love all over again…….

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为什么人一生中有些东西可以知其然,有些东西可以知其所以然,却有太多太多的东西不能知其然,更难知其所以然?!!!....................

 

7月20日

相信你

写给赴英留学的小妹妹

 

你是你爸爸妈妈的希望和精神寄托.

每时每刻都被牵挂.

所以,万语千言嘱咐不完要说的话.

照顾自己,就是照顾好了你的爸妈.

安全,健康,是亲人们嘱咐的第一句话.

要适应那里的环境,

适应那里的人.

遇事冷静,慎密.

处事三思,周详.

待人热情,大方.

与人为善,友好,大度.

但绝不能被人左右.

要勤奋,

要灵活,

不为成绩陶醉

不被挫折压垮

始终保持进取的精神状态.

 

英格蘭,苏格兰,威尔士,北爱尓兰,

这四个名称合成一塊神奇土地.

姐姐相信你,

在那里一定会文明,进步.

 

从公元两千零七年七月十七日中午十一时二十五分起,

亲人们的心就随同British Airway陪你飞往英国……….

 

 
6月28日

Terribly suffering insomnia

 

Wake up again…midnight again..3’clock again…holy shit!!I suppose I think about insomnia more than anyone really should! I’am constantly amazed by it’s sheer power to alter my live..And It doesn’t matter how many bath I take or gyms I join or how many glasses of wine I drink with my girls, I still go to bed every night going over every detail, and wonder what I did wrong or how I could have misunderstood…what I’m trying to say here is ..For God’s sake please stop… 

 

She said: I know it’s hard to believe people when they say: I know how you feel, but I actually know how you feel. I understand feeling as small and as insignificant as humanly possible and how it can actually ache in places ...however, long all that maybe, you’ll go somewhere new and you’ll meet people who make you feel worhwhile again and little pieces of soul will finally come back, and all that fuzzy stuff, those years of life that you wasted…that will eventually begin to fade

 

But I wanna say I really don't care about that mate, the only thing I want is to sleep , I need it than anyone else now…I don’t want take any sleeping pills anymore, it seems I wanna ruin myself… is there any help on the way?

6月24日

感受重庆

感受重庆

我对重庆莫名其妙地有种深厚的情感,冲动,和好奇是因为小敏的缘故还是曾经他的一个好朋友家也在重庆的缘故, 我解释不清楚...不过有时对于一个Travel疲劳的人来说有一个城市能让她这么惦记真的不容易了….

当在江北国际机场与小敏紧紧拥抱时,即熟悉又新鲜,熟悉的仿佛我们不曾分开过, 新鲜的我们急迫扑捉对方的变化….四年前我去了英国,她去了加拿大,阔别四年的好友相聚真的是人生八喜之一!重庆很美,一点都没有让我失望, 开着车盘旋在山城的公路上,看着发展中的江北, 码头, 人群对于上个礼拜还在天天加班到凌晨两,三点的我来说真的太惬意,太悠闲了尤其是身边的她们让我相信有些事情值得等待比如--重逢

高尔夫,游艇,马术作为世界三大高尚生活的标准在被越来越多的人认同,在国内无论是从权贵云集的北京还是聚居财富精英的上海或者是直辖十年的重庆,它们都是成功人士高档的休闲运动….小敏总是喜欢玩奢侈品,这种印象打从认识她都没有改变过在这种场所总能遇到让你瞠目结舌的人物比如: 比我们才大三岁的一个哥哥,自己公司的年营业额已经超过两亿!! 或者能让你打破一些对某种人群之前的偏见和看法---比如姐夫, 让我们从新定义了一下当今成功好男人’!!比起那种身边围绕着颖颖艳艳以此希望众人高看的肤浅男士们,姐夫的那种人格魅力瞬间把人折服!! 我不太喜欢话太多的人, 比如在饭局中班门弄斧地高谈阔论高尔夫三要素每一杆的抉择体位手位…..等等!! bullshit!他大概没有意识到对面坐的是全国冠军教练吧! 有些男人总是那么令人讨厌!

这次旅行恰逢重庆庆直瞎市十周年庆典, 朝天门广场举行的音乐会仿佛给我们的旅途又增加了一个特别节目不过当我和妞妞入场时看到了坐位指示牌,water screen 诸如此类的东西时...我们忍不住放肆地大笑着….因为有太多滑稽又美好的东西值得回忆了….!! 有时太高雅的东西总是让人感觉无聊, 尤其是和大领导一起观赏!!于是整场音乐会我都在做滑稽的动作捣乱她们….要么就是在想能多呆几天多好呀,这样可以去十面埋伏的拍摄基地去看看….

Shopping 好象是我每一次旅行中必不可少的一项任务, 没有它任何一个旅途都变的黯然失色….每当这时都会让我想起Bournmouth老师说我的那句话:”darling u r typical girl, don’t spend too much ….lol”. 重庆的美美百货让我逛了三遍, 直到那帮小女人尖叫脚要断了….我暗自偷笑,因为我穿的是拖鞋…..和她们在一起时我总是那么那么地开心, 听她们的故事,分享她们的心情, 共同期盼着明天….未来……

分别时, 没有感伤,没有失落, 有的只是坚定的眼神和深深地祝福因为我们都深知对方是自己背后坚强的后盾!

回到北京, 一切开始繁忙起来, 小精灵像对我使了魔法, 一下子我的social life像龙卷风一样席卷过来, 我有点想喊help…耳边却传来它的声音心有多大, 舞台就有多大”!

                      

4月20日

miss you ..... all

   Miss you ….a letter to you
First of all, I do apologize to you all who care me a lot in most of time. Don’t blame me anymore please, my dear darlings. I’ve already graduated from the university in the UK, only because I haven’t got time to put my graduation ceremony photos on space album. I was doing job-hunting these couple of months. That’s the reason why I am so quietletting you all think of me disappearing from the world. I bet I am still in the world where full of with your love and sunshine as well.
Life here sucks sometimes you know like someone told me, I wish I could be there chatting, dancing, even shouting with you every single day when off work, there is so much that I want to share with you all , but there’s always a but ,isn’t there? I know that you’re all thrilled for me that I’ve got a job, with a nice company. As I write this I know that my dear darlings will forgive me in any case and I can just imagine your smiles there in my mind.
Life isn’t easy sometimes, is it! A huge thanks to all those who helped and gave love to me when I was upset, low-spirited. I know that you won’t leave me forever, you know darlings it means so much to me, and do you really know?
Here, thanks to my sisters n brothers of whole blood:
My dear little sammi who always gives me a big hand in every aspect of life;
My dear little Linda who always does something for me that I can’t handle rather than only saying;
My dear little meggie who always lets me know something I do not know before that really useful in the working future;
My dear sister Mary who always worries me falling right into others’ trap in this complicated society which I haven’t realized yet and I can always get her loving call from far far away from uk, with a special love;
My dear John who always keeps every thing crossed for me.
My dear girlfriend Sharon who is always waiting there, sending me feelings across the sea.
My dear flora who is the best girl ever, teaching me life skills, ready there to buy any cosmetics or fashions I want most from UK
My dear hero who always helps me to deal with the high-tech ,which make me totally mad each time.
My dear genius who makes me relaxing and let me confess that all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
My dear xixi who always consoles and gives me such creative ideas
During the two years studying abroad, I believe not only we broadened our horizons a great deal, but also built up unbreakable friendship with each other.
I am sorry that sometimes I was not there to answer your calls on msn. But I do miss you so much. when I think about you It makes me feel warm……miss Jackie chen; brother zhangliang; Helen wang; Xiao min; ai hua; My little brother rui; Jay; Julia; Karen; Cindy; hai Yang; Boss zhao&Tingting; Micheal; Xiao Ma ge; Natalian; little brother xiaolin; maomao; ect…ect…
I am longing for the day when we shall meet once again…….
People can be cruel when you start a new job they sometimes see you as a threat and often ignore you ….here, I specially wanna thank my colleague Nicole who is very kindly and helpful with an attractive personality .Also I am so glad to know Diana &Even who are lovely n smart girls like angels. I am so happy that I can share my working hours with you.
Last night, I read koko’s blog, you know, after reading, I was sorrowful…here I wanna say I hope you are happy, the happiness from your deep heart, I mean koko! Every time talking about love, we feel sentimental, don’t we? If we wanna have true love, the first thing we need to do is that we must believe true love existing in the world, instead of giving up or playing love with bad attitude.
           love is patient; love is kind; it does not envy; it does not boagt;  it is not proud; it is not rude; it is not self-seeking;
      love is not easily angered; it keepa no record of wpongs;
         love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects; always trusts; always hopes; and always perseveres
       Pray all for you , get true love , get happy life, get…….my dears again!!

 

5月24日

唯学能变化气质

                                                   淡扫娥眉留皓月
                                                   漫挥红袖遏流云
                         
5月1日

离开还是靠近

他问我:“假如你一个人外出旅游,来到了一个峡谷,发现几米深的地方有一个手提包,而且手提包是打开的,里面明显装着一沓钞票。同时,你还发现,在悬崖边有一些看起来长得不是很牢固的树根,这树根可以帮助你到达手提包的位置,拿到这笔意外的财富,当然,你更有可能因此而被摔断脖子。你会选择离开还是靠近?”。我想了想,选择了离开,因为再多的财富也比不上父母给我的生命可贵!他沉默,继续问:“如果那个装钱的手提包换成了一个失足落下的小男孩,他此时奄奄一息地发出求救的呼唤-----你又会怎么选择呢?”。我考虑了几秒选择了靠近。“一样的环境,一样的危机,一样的的后果,你却做了不一样的选择,为什么?”他看着我。我避开他的眼神,犹豫了一下说:“因为目标不同,感觉也是不同的,一个仅仅是为了取得财富,而另一个却是营救生命,不但是那个小男孩的,还有我自己的。” 他疑惑!我解释:“如果在面对那个小男孩的时刻我没有选择靠近,那么我的后半生将在这种强烈的自责和阴影下度过,这对于我来说和失去生命没有什么区别”。他接着说:“现在我们换个内容,如果你有一个心仪的男朋友,你希望能和他厮守终身,但对方却不这样认为,也许他不是真的喜欢你。这时候,如果你一意孤行地付出自己的情感,那么结局会有两个:要么他被你感动,被动的和你在一起,但这段感情可能随时都会出现问题;要么他仍旧冷漠地离开了你,任你对他再好也没有用-----这时,你是选择毅然离开,还是坚持靠近?”。我陷入了思考,毕竟面对自己所爱,甚至是唯一的!“那么假若角色互换”,他看我一直沉默,于是话题一转,“你是那个被苦苦追求的人,在你根本没有打算接纳对方的前提下,你会选择离开,让对方彻底死心,还是选择靠近,听任感情自由的发展?”。“既然我不爱他,我会早早离开,不然会耽误了他的青春和幸福!”我没有一点迟疑的回答。他微笑着说:“既然你明白,在不喜欢一个人时候,一定要给对方一个明确的答复,不要耽误、伤害别人,那么易地而处,当你是一个追求着时,又何必甘愿自己深陷泥沼之中,糟蹋自己的青春和幸福呢?”我抬起头看着他,他却笑了。其实我并不是想反驳,只是想说点什么!两年多过去了,他一点没变,语言和层次都有一种运筹帷幄的自信,任何困难在他身上都能得到升华,而变得美丽!